Most girls grow up dreaming of their wedding long before they meet their grooms. They fantasize about the details of their dress, walking down the aisle, and the reception celebration after. As those little girls get older their tastes will likely change, but one thing will remain constant: their wedding will be one of a kind and filled with their personal requests and details. What those little girls aren’t thinking of are the outside influences that will be dealt with during the planning process. Insightful Mother-in-Laws, well-meaning friends, and “fashion-forward” magazines galore will want to guide the decision-making process in multiple ways. So how do you stay true to that little girl who planned her dream wedding while juggling those who want to help make the decisions for a wedding come to life on their terms?
Make a Top 10 List
While this may seem like a trivial idea, sitting down and writing out the top ten things you are adamant about when it comes to your wedding day will help focus you and the planning process. Keep this list handy as a reminder of what truly matters deep down when it comes to arranging the details of your big day. It will also be a good backup to have when people may be barraging you with ideas, and you want to show them your list, so there is no question as to the things you want for focus on when it comes to your wedding.
Hire a Wedding Planner
Some people believe that if they are hiring a wedding planner they are going to get something non-original or just a typical wedding plan based on trends. This is not true! A wedding planner’s job is to sit down with their clients and talk to them about what they’d like for their wedding. Further than that – a planner should gather a feeling about the couples’ style and what would fit them best, based on their casual conversations. From that, a planner will have a good idea how to proceed with details and making the event theme an extension of the bride and groom.
Embrace That You are the Final Say
While of course if the parents of the bride and groom are helping to pay for some of the wedding, they may feel as though they can have some say in the planning process. A touchy subject – but at the end of the day it is the final say of the bride/groom as to what they want. When dealing with pushy family planners, it’s a good idea to recognize them for their well-intentioned suggestions, but do not sacrifice choices due to the fact Mom doesn’t like the colors and wants to change the entire layout of the seating and décor. Coming to a middle grounds is always encouraged, and even though Mom may not get to change the décor color, offer to allow her to pick her flower brooch with the colors she prefers, or help with other aspects of the planning.
Do not let the little things that come up before a wedding day outshine the fun of the planning process. The main thing is that two people are in love and cannot wait to celebrate it with the ones they care about most.