I give brides a lot of credit. Trying to plan one of the biggest days of your life while dealing with the opinion of Mom, your future Mother-In-Law, a designer, a florist, a caterer, a venue, the DJ…. You get the idea. It can be downright exhausting, but at the same time you are trying o also keep a calm, cool, collected appearance about everything. So how do you effectively deal with the stress of planning a wedding without turning into the always-feared “Bridezilla”?
There are a few things you can do to effectively deal with the unforeseen (and unavoidable) circumstances that are part of the bridal planning territory. By effectively communicating, knowing when to stand your ground, and understanding that things may happen to interrupt the smooth flow of planning and execution – you can save yourself a large amount of headache as you inch closer to your wedding date.
Dealing with Mom and Your Future Mother-in-Law
There may come a time that you will get the opinion of both of these influential ladies, and hopefully all discussions will go smoothly. In the case there are some disagreements, it is important to remember this: it is your day. Not your Mother or the Mother of your soon-to-be husband. So essentially, your veto on something will be the last word. However, don’t close off all ideas that they may want to run past you. At the least, making them feel as though you consider their ideas and concepts to be considerable options will help them feel involved. Embrace their ideas and let them know how much you appreciate their assistance with your big day.
Breaking the Rules of Tradition is OK.
While there are typical things we come to expect out of a wedding, that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to include them. Especially if you are finding, they are causing more stress than they are worth in your opinion. Are choosing your wedding invitations proving to be tedious? What about a well-designed postcard that sends guests to a wedding site? (Not to mention you are saving a whole bunch of trees). By simplifying certain aspects of your wedding, you can minimize stress, and maximize your budget (or find other areas to spend the saved money in).
Budge-ing on the Budget
Money can cause a lot of headaches. Luckily there are two things you can make note of to help ease those chances. First, leave room for additional costs. It is rare that things will not change during the course of wedding planning. Not allowing a buffer will only create a stressful situation when these changes come up. Secondly, don’t let Pinterest, wedding magazines or wedding blogs make you feel the burden of having every single detail of your wedding be personalized and addressed. Getting into too much detail becomes tiresome, and you will see the numbers climb as your budget tightens. A suggestion? Entertain the thought of a wedding planner, whose expertise may cost a little money to begin with – but their knowledge of the industry and key players within it can help save you time, money, and hassle.
At the end of the day, your wedding day will be beautiful because of the happiness that is apparent between you and your future spouse. While wanting to create the fairy tale wedding, don’t get too caught up in the details that your guests would likely overlook. Seeing the love between the bride and groom is what makes the most picturesque weddings.